Hello good people!! Hope you guys are well. Anywho, in the spirit of Christmas, the retail company for which I work does a toy drive and participates in Adopt-a-Family every year. This is no different….except for the fact that our adopted family has caused a bit of controversy as to whether they should receive assistance/gifts or not. Here we go! ^_^
So I was at work last Tuesday, emailing the employees about volunteering for the toy drive and bringing in donations for the family. As I was finishing, one of the employees (we’ll call her Anna for anonymity’s sake) Anna read the board and proceeded to say the following (paraphrasing): “Has anyone noticed that none of the woman’s children have the same last name? They have 4 different fathers! I will NOT be donating anything to her family! The only thing that I will offer to do is sit down with her and talk to her about how to get free birth control/condoms, but I will not give anything to or her family.”
Now, a little background about Anna. Anna is an older white woman in her 40’s. She is an amazing mother and friend and I am proud to know her. She has helped me in numerous situations and gives the best advice. She is very charitable and giving and not only just in the sense of donating to the poor. She helps family and friends in times of need no matter how great the problem.
And about the family—> They are a black family. She is a single mother raising 4 children – 3 boys ( 15, 13, 11) and 1 girls (3). All of the children have different fathers. We are not exactly sure what her status is, like if she is working, if she is on welfare, or are the fathers involved or not. The are the factors that contributed to Anna’s initial response.
Herein lies the controversy: Should we be donating to help the family or not? Should we be more concerned about the mother’s choice of protective measures? Should we only donate items for the children alone? I’ve gotten soooo many different views from my co-workers and now I want to hear yours…